Sunset and Singing
- Lexy
- Apr 18, 2016
- 5 min read
My third date (I’m catching up on the months I missed quicker than I thought)!!! This is one of my dates from February. This date was entertaining to go on and really helped me learn more about one of my new friends (this is a fantastic date to get someone out of their “box” without pushing it). I went on this date with my friend, Kelly!
Kelly is another one of the girls that I met throw the Towson University chapter of The National Society of Leadership and Success. I already introduced you to Allison and we still have Sarah and Samantha to go! Kelly is going to Towson for elementary education (in other words she is going to be a teacher)! Shout out to all the current and future teachers, I have so much respect for all of you. Teachers make the world a better place, thank you for inspiring the children of the world.
Kelly and I watched the sunset and did some singing in the car. So, you know back in middle school or high school (maybe it was a 90s thing) when a guy liked you they made you a mix tape/cd…? The mix was random songs that reminded them of you… or songs they thought you would like or maybe songs they could use as conversation starters or if all else failed just songs you could laugh at. Was this just the boys who were hitting on me, or was this universal in middle and high school (lol)? What is the best or worst song that has been put on a mix tape for you? Either way this is where I got the idea for this date! We each made a playlist with songs to listen to and sing in the car on our drive to and from watching the sunset. The playlist I made for Kelly was themed around college, graduation and life after college.
Kelly and I spent a lot of time talking about some milestone moments in our lives while watching the sunset. Some of those moments included birthdays past and soon to come and do’s and don’ts and the never again, the importance of a name, and our best friends. I’d like to point out that when going to watch the sunset make sure to bring a blanket!! I remembered everything else for our date but a blanket…my god I wish we had one, that would have been fabulous (it got chilly so quick). Watching the sunset gives you a lot of time to talk and a great view. This is a date that won’t cost you anything but the gas (pick a good view… it is important). I took Kelly to the Lock Raven Reservoir Bridge, so beautiful!
I mentioned that we talked about birthdays! Lots of my college peers, including Kelly, have just turned or are turning 21 while most of my friends and I have just turned or are turning 30! These are both big turning points in your life. At 21 you are finally legal, so exciting to go out and able to legally do everything you have been doing since you were 18 (lol)! While, at 30 you are finally done doing the shit you use to find exciting and you’d rather be at home drinking your wine or beer and chilling with a good book or a movie.
Whether you are turning 21 or 30 there are a few things to remember when going out for your birthday (speaking from experience & knowledge…9 years of bartending…not that I’ve always practiced what I preach). 1- DO NOT PRE-GAME, your friends are taking you out on these big birthdays with the single propose of getting you drunk (you won’t last the whole night if you pregame). 2- EAT A GOOD MEAL, before you go out bread is your friend (don’t even try to skip a birthday dinner, don’t be a fool). 3- HAVE A DESIGNATED DRIVER, drinking and driving isn’t cool, just say no! 4- DON’T MIX LIQUORS, stick to the same shot. If you like whiskey stick to it, if you like Jello shots (Jello absorbs slower…takes twice as long to feel them) then do it… they be ‘creepin’, or maybe sweet shots like a jolly rancher is your calling…just stick to one type, or you will end up vomiting. 5- DON’T HOOK UP- just because it’s your birthday, doesn’t give you a free hall pass to be a hoe…but if you end up with a hickey scratching it with a quarter can make it go away real fast (learn something new every day). 6-NO CELLPHONE, this is the age of technology. If there is a day you do not need on the record it’s your birthday (future employers can & will see it if you put it online). Plus, we all know at least one person who as dropped their cellphone during a drunken night… you want that to be you? 7- HAVE FUN, you aren’t young forever enjoy the little moments.
Singing in the car was hysterical! I could barely keep it together, I was laughing so much. We also talked about nicknames and thinking out names because I have a son with a unique name. I was telling Kelly that his dad and I had to pick a good name because of his last name… Rash (lol, sorry baby). So after much deliberating we decided on Killian (like the beer… Killian’s Irish Red) so the worst nickname he could have is Killer Rash (hahaha, laughing with you not at you honey). Kelly went on to tell me that right before puberty her mom told her the importance of smelling good (a lesson I’m trying to teach Killian who like to use ½ a bottle of ax spray when he gets out of the shower…trust me that is good for nobody) because her name rhymes with smelly. Mom’s lesson worked great because Kelly had 3 or 4 different bath & body works lotions in her purse (which all smelled fantastic) and she never got called smelly Kelly, Mom win!
Kelly and I had a great time hanging out and getting to know each other outside of our SNT group! Singing, making a playlist and watching the sunset was so much fun. I would go on this date with anytime of the year with someone new like Kelly or somebody I have known forever.
What did we learn?
Bring a blanket when you watch the sunset!!!
Music is a great icebreaker!!!
Birthdays (anniversaries too!) are important! Celebrate them. It is the little moments in life that make up what matter. Don’t let them just pass you by.
Smelling good is important! Don’t forget that…please.
Laugh at yourself and you will be fine. People are going to make fun of you for something whether it is your name, how you look, or something else but if you can brush it off, laugh and not let it get to you, then you have already won.
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